Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is when people have difficulty managing their impulses, emotions, and the way they relate to others and themselves. This can cause significant difficulties with daily functioning, particularly in the context of a person’s relationship with others.
BPD can be extremely distressing for not only the individual, but their partner as well. In BPD there is an intense fear of instability or abandonment, and it may be difficult for you or your partner to be alone. However, impulsiveness, mood swings and anger can cause the urge to push others away, despite wanting to have long lasting relationships. This can be confusing as BPD is easily misunderstood, however it is very treatable.
Some of the symptoms, but not necessarily all, that can be experienced by individuals with BPD can include:
This condition will often appear worse in young adulthood, however it is likely to get better with age with the appropriate treatment. If you or your partner display some of these symptoms or has previously been diagnosed with BPD, it is important to seek help so it doesn’t affect your relationship any longer.
It is also important for the people who are close to them to get support if it is needed. It can be difficult to understand and accept their behaviour, and it can be very difficult to watch someone you love go through so much pain because of something that they cannot control.
You may be struggling to support your partner with BPD, and this is causing you to feel constantly down or affecting other aspects of your life. If having a partner with BPD is beginning to take a toll on your wellbeing, it may be beneficial for you to seek help as well or to seek support as a couple.
Many of our psychologists are specialised in assisting with BPD in a number of ways, including: